The worst thing you can do to someone who’s love language is words of affirmation is to use words to hurt them. It’s the worst thing in the entire world. They’ll carry those words with them for the rest of the night, the next day, the entirety of the week, and the sting will get worse each time…
Sensitive hearts are like a pond, when you say or do something, it’s like you have tossed a rock into the heart of it, the repercussions go to every part of the pond. So be gentle, be kind, and be loving; for each action will be felt.
Sometimes I get messages from people who tell me that my words have had a profound influence on them, even a few that have said that they wanted to end their lives but didn’t because of something I said. Every time I read these messages, I get overcome with emotions.
There is always that one person you know who is so beautiful and so amazing in every way, and you just know that you two could never be together because that person is the sun, and you are simply the earth basking in their marvelous beauty, sense of humor, kindness, wisdom, and everything about…
Sometimes you just need someone to tell you that you were brave for trying, and that you’ll be brave again. Because life is not easy, and sometimes you jump into the deep end, and you enjoy it; but eventually you have to swim back to the shallow end, getting to a place that isn’t where you wanted to be. Yet, perhaps you weren’t meant for that pool, maybe it was just training for something bigger, maybe you were getting ready for the ocean; the water that you were always meant to dive into.
You are brave; you might be back where you started, empty handed and alone… But you are gonna feel the crash of those waves, because you are not forgotten, and you are far more courageous than you know.
Sometimes you just need someone to say that you are brave, and that’s what I’m telling you now.
"Tips and Tricks"
If the movies scare me, walk out and sit with me.
If I can’t sleep, don’t stay up with me. It makes me feel worse for keeping you up too.
If I don’t want to touch people, back me up. Don’t make me fight the world off by myself.
If I need to hold your hand to feel safe, let me. Don’t make a big deal about it.
If you eat foods that trigger me, don’t encourage me to try them. Don’t make me explain in gross detail how it makes me feel before you’ll back off.
If I tell you no, listen to me. Even if it’s something tiny. Listen.
If I’m okay with something one day, and not the next, don’t point it out. I know I did the thing yesterday. I’m not dumb.
If I freak out over something, remember I’m still healing, and be patient. I will apologize and try to make it better when I stop panicking.
If I cancel plans to be alone in my room, don’t be mad at me. Whatever has made me need to stay in is definitely not something I would choose over time with you voluntarily.
If I cry, let me cry. Sometimes I need to. Don’t ask about it later. I’ll talk about it if I can or want to.
If I worry about you leaving me, don’t think you did anything wrong. You didn’t, I’m just paranoid. It happens.
If I get better, be proud of me. I am working very hard to be good.